SHRUG IT OFF

 We all have had experiences where someone has mistreated us or acted rudely.  CAN YOU FEEL IT THE INDIGNATION RISING IN YOU, THE IRRESTIBLE IMPULSE TO CLOBBER SOMEONE WHO HAS WRONGED OR EVEN GOT IN YOUR FACE, AND DARED YOU TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT??

I was entering a gas station, and turning right and I noticed a young man in dark clothing  coming up on the sidewalk I stopped and he stopped  .. Presumably I was going to turn in, but he motioned for me to turn in first. I did, and a torrent of expletives you God..... open your GD eyes..!!  Wow he burned my ears as I drove past,

Part of me wanted to go back there, and say listen you low life, get a life and stop ,..,, around. I shrugged it off and laughed to myself and pumped gas. 

I reflected on peoples responses and how today it seems peoples anger is riding just underneath the surface, ready to boil over at the first opportunity! This young fellow's anger sure was..

Another time i was riding in town and another car pulled out in front of me to get going the other way,, he did pull into the median but it was blocking my progress going the other way.  I had the rightof way and could have told him so, in words or gestures.  he then sat there for a moment calculating my reaction.. I had none, He went on..

Now the thing is I could have  screamed my offense and got into a confrontation. I kept my cool rode it out and moved on.  Did I feel like it?  Of course!

Proverbs tells us that Anger rests in the bosom of fools. A fool cannot control his anger,  and so on.

Lets keep it under control.. if we get angry over these things, Think what will happen when the real provocation comes on!!

LEARNING TO LET GO!

I was reflecting upon  the last few months and the events in my life. The emotional turmoil of dating, the rush of trying to succeed in business, and the sometimes CRUSHING DISAPPOINTMENT WHEN EXPECTATIONS ARE NOT MET.   We try to shrug it off but the feeling persists that what we think is reasonable never really turns out in real life form.

Contrast that with the PMA, " Whatever the mind can conceive it can achieve"  This sounds like you can somehow bring into existence an outcome, simply by your thoughts and a formula.  Gurus  talk about visualization and thinking what you want into existence, the reality is that much of what happens in  life is unintended. 

I have been in the dating scene for some time. and inevitably  you will run across some person that you like and want to build a relationship with, but that person will surprise you.  What you expected might be one thing.. however what you get may be something else.

The X factor always plays a role..and of course Father Murphy also intrudes. The X factor may be that person past, and what they havent  told you. The X factor is business might be the question or fact that you  neglected to find out about the customer. The X factor may be a host of other things that you cant account for.

When you set your heart upon something, or expect something that is not in the established order of things, you inevitably set yourself up for disappointment. This is why some of the most disallusioned people in the world have a lot of stuff and the things that are coveted by others, (Tiger Woods, Billy Joel)  yet are not content.

The Bible is so dead on when it says.." Contentment with godliness is great gain.."  I may not be allthat godly but  being content is a sure path to peace.  Guy Finley has a number of good things to say about this, because he delves deeply into an issue and brings insights that most people never think about,

http://www.bing.com/search?q=Learnign%20to%20let%20go%20finley&FORM=HPNTLB&PC=HPNTDF&QS=n


Finley reminds us that tomorrow will come and the sun will rise, and we will still be alone with ourself. We cannot control a lot of things, however we can control our attidude. By Learning to Let Go we progress on our journey to maturity so that nothing really shakes us.

People will stun you, events may powerdrive you into the mat of life.  Your recovery will depend on your faith in yourself and your God.

Next blog entryI want to talk about learning to be happy even when your world is turned upside down, and how to turn disappointment into opportunity.

BIG BROTHER BIG SISTER


Last night ihad a wonderful opportunity to attend  a meet and greet with Big Brothers and Sisters of Greenvile County.Meeting the CEO Terry Hype, Derrick and lamont Sullivan reinforced the good work we are doing and the work that still needs to be done.

Despite having nearly 250 big brothers and sisters there are scores of children that have no mentor.  Derrick is a fun guy to work with because he always keeps it positive and interesting.

A touching moment came when the Big Brother of the Year for the Sate of South Carolina came and spoke along with his little (mentee) and the mother. To see him  tear up and  tell stories of the good times spendwith his little brother made it  all worthwhile.  They had spend nearly9 years together and the effects on that young man was obvious.  He was confident well spoken and happy.

Doing well in school was only one benefit of the program, the humor and the camaderie that you develop with the family is key as well. The kid got it right when he said,  "School work comes first girls can come later."  We all cracked up at that, his timing was even better.

When we pay it forward to others, we never know the payback we will receive down the road,, However the fruit of our labor of love will resound from years to come. in the dreams and aspirations of others we influence. Yes we can make a difference.

I encourage you to look into this organization and see if you can make the time for some deserving guy or gal.

No man or woman stands so tall as when they stoop to help a child

LEARNING TO UNDERSTAND PEOPLE

HAVE YOU EVER SCRATCHED YOUR HEAD AND WONDERED  TRYNG TO  UNDERSTAND PEOPLE?  HAVE YOU OFTEN WONDERED WHY PEOPLE DO THE THINGS THEY DO. OR HOW THEYRE WIRED?

WELL i dont offer a complete primer on that and no one does, however no one does, however the understanding of a few basic truths about peoples psychology will  help you immensely. Lets get a few things out in the open:


FIRST WE ALL CLASH WITH SOME PEOPLE, THEY DEFINITELY DONT GET US AND WE DONT GET THEM.

PEOPLE HAVE  THEIR OWN WAY OF UNDERSTANDING THEIR WORLD, IF WE CANT GET INSIDE OF THAT MEME OR MODALITY, THEN WE WONT UNDERSTAND THEM.

 THIRD THERE IS  A SYSTEM THAT WE CAN EMPLOY TO BEGIN TO ASSIST WITH THAT PROCESS OF FILTERING A PERSON MAIN METHOD OF UNDERSTANDING  THEIR WORLD. 




NOTE: THIS IS NOT A COMPREHENSIVE WORK SUPPORTED BY OWN RESEARCH BUT MATERIAL THAT I WAS INTRODUCED THAT HAS STARTED TO HELP ME UNDERSTAND  OTHERS.  I HAVE ENCLOSED SOME HELPS AND SOURCE MATERIAL BELOW..  BUT I AM A BABE IN THE WOODS WHEN IT COMES TO LIVING THIS.

The basics are the fact that we are either peole oriented or task oriented. According to the DISC model there are four personality  types:


DOMINANT

INFLUENCING

SUPPORTIVE

CAUTIOUS

WE ALL ARE A COMBINATION OF EACH HOWEVER WE ALL HAVE A DOMINANT MODALITY. MORE ON THAT LATER. BY UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER OR THAT PERSON THAT WE CAN SEEM TO, WE CAN START HEADED DOWN THAT ROAD.

Here is that link

http://www.personalityinsights.com/#


More to come. enjoy the free four step quiz  thats available on the site

Touching the Sky, (On Top of the World)


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philippe_Petit


It was a hot sultry day in August 1974 that one brave Frenchman attempted what had never been attempted before, a high wire act across the World Trade Center. It was  not once but eight times! Most of us would be aghast at the thought of walking to the top and leaning over the edge..

I have never been a big fan of open heights, I can inside of a skyscraper go up in the elevator and ride to the top.. but getting out of even a lighthouse and looking out over the edge makes me a little queasy Reading his story is nothing short of audacious and mind blowing when you consider and read what he had to do to accomplish the feat. While you read the link pause and refresh these points as they apply to your life, I gained an inspiration imagining audacious goals.

One this process took years.  It was not an overnite thing, He had meticulous plans from getting inside the building and partnering with several inside people.

     He needed the help of inside people to accomplish this, without the work of those who could help him, the impossible could not have been pulled  off. It took him 6 years of sizing up this project before he started.


  What seem impossible can be pulled off with meticulous planning.  Oceans eleven heist comes to mind, casino caper.


Philippe stepped into his dream visualized his dream, felt it smelled it,  walked in it, well before it actually happened.

When you engage your senses and continually imagine something, it makes it more likely to happen. Sure we cant all be champion tightrope walkers, but we each have something burning inside of us,,, that can be tapped!

In today's culture its the same hum drum get an education get a job mentality..Dreams are sometimes discouraged as nonsense, and some are, but we are programmed to be a slave to a clock and work, rather designing a life of our dreams. We all need  others that encourage and help us along the way, and most of all take it one step at a time, for this mountain ( the World Trade Ctr) was conquered by sheer unrelenting persistence and planning.

In no way am I discouraging a career and a job, but sometimes we have to let our inner child and launch out and take risks, to prove to oursselves that we can do more.

 Find your TOP OF THE WORLD!