COMMUNICATION PART THREE

LEARNING TO LISTEN FOR SOMEBODY'S DOMINANT MODALITY. WE HAVE COVERED SO FAR TWO DOMINANT MODALITIES, THE VISUAL AND THE AUDITORY.

TO RECAP,  VISUAL ARE THE ONES THAT TALK FAST AND POINT A LOT  AND GESTURE WHILE THEY TALK. TO  CONNECT WITH THEM, YOU NEED TO DO ALOT OF THE SAME WITH THEM. IF YOURE AN AUDITORY OR KINESTHETIC THEN YOU WONT CLICK WITH THEM, THEY LL IMPATIENTLY WAIT FOR YOU TO FINISH.

THE AUDITORIES LOVE TO HEAR, AND ARE SLOWER  AND SMOOTHER IN COMMJNICATION. THEY USE A LOT OF THE HEARING CUE WORDS WHEN TALKING .. LIKE  ..THIS IS NOT SOUNDING RIGHT TO ME.. OR RINGS LIKE A BELL..

TODAY WE WILL FOCUS ON KINESTHETIC, THE FEELING ORIENTED BUNCH..

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OK, WE ROLL ON TO THE TOUCHY FEELY ONES, THAT KINESTHETICS, SOUNDS LIKE A BAND RIGHT? THESE PEOPLE THAT MOVE REALLY SLOWLY, AND SEEM TO FEEL AND BREATHE MORE DEEPLY THAN OTHERS. IN FACT YOU CAN SEE THEM AS THEY PROCESS THINGS MORE SLOWLY..IT MIGHT GET ON YOUR NERVES IF YOU ARE AN V OR A..YOU MIGHT GET IMPATIENT AND WANT TO RUSH THINGS..BUT FOR THEM ITS AN EXPERIENCE.  

YOU HAVE TO GIVE THESE GUYS UNDERSTANDING BECAUSE THEIR SENSE OF PERSONAL SPACE IS LESS THAN OTHERS, SO THEY MIGHT STAND CLOSER TO YOU..THAN YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH..LOL

THEY ALSO MAKE A DECISION BASED ON " HOW THEY FEEL"  IT DRIVES AUDITORY AND VISUALS CRAZY.. BUT THAT IS HOW THEY ARE.  THEY ARE VERY MUCH IN TOUCH WITH THEIR FEELINGS, SOUNDS LIKE WOMEN RIGHT,  HAH, ACTUALLY THESE ALL ARE GOD GIVEN TRAITS, AND NO ONE IS BETTER THAN ANOTHER JUST DIFFERENT.

EXERCISE THIS WEEK, IS TO PRACTICE AS I WILL TALKING TO PEOPLE AND FIND OUT THEIR REPRESENTATION STYLE IF YOU CAN.. THIS IS KEY TO BECOMING MORE ADEPT AT HELPING CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOUR AND HELPING THEM INTERNALIZE KEY INFORMATION.  IMAGINE IF YOU WERE ABLE TO TURN A SITUATION AROUND AND CLICK WITH SOMEONE WHO YOU PREVIOUSLY CLASHED OR DID NOT GET??


ALSO CHECK OUT GLORIA'S LINK FOR SOME GREAT INFO. SEE YOU SOON!


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