Have you ever had the experience of dating someone, getting to know them, (you think) then suddenly they vanish like Houdini in a puff of smoke? You are going along pretty well, communicating and the bottom drops out. You try to text or call them and they simply refuse to get back with you.!
You can call it what you want, you just lost interest, she was seeing somebody else, or just got busy. I really have little patience for such. There is such a thing as courtesy and respect.,.. something that was present a week ago, now all of a sudden its not. It doenst make sense and demeans the other party. When you dont communicate with that person, you are basically insulting them. You are saying in so many words, or lack of them, (I dont think you are important enough to talk.. too soo Ill do the easiest thing and cop out...
Silence is not golden when it comes to relatioships. More people are hurt by the lack of communication that are helped by it. What you dont do if you respect and value a person, is just disappear without an explanation. Sometimes I think some people have a total lack of empathy,, they cannot put themselves in the other person shoes, or be able to reverse that and see it through their own eyes.
The missing link in marriages and in failed business ventures is missing or bad communication. Assumptions are deadly because they are many times erroneous. The very people that put up nice profiles that want rich rewarding relationships, often are the pathetic at communication . Take it from me , I know.
Relationships take work, and that means open honest and free communication. It takes time and energy to work on one..something apparently that some people are not ready to do!
One tip: Be clear about what you want.. and fearlessly express it..It will separae the pretenders from the contenders!
http://www.dailycal.org/2011/10/04/sex-on-tuesday-love-in-the-time-of-facebook/
She makes some very salient points , but expresses the same bewilderment about what dating has come to,. Perhaps Im a lttle old fashioned ,but.. she is on to the updated and ultra sleek modern form of cyber dating. We think we have more but we actually have less. Short attention spans mean that we are juggling.. instead of focusing on the moment and the person we are too busy planning our next move.
No silence is not golden, and there is a missing link. ala really honest open communication!
You can call it what you want, you just lost interest, she was seeing somebody else, or just got busy. I really have little patience for such. There is such a thing as courtesy and respect.,.. something that was present a week ago, now all of a sudden its not. It doenst make sense and demeans the other party. When you dont communicate with that person, you are basically insulting them. You are saying in so many words, or lack of them, (I dont think you are important enough to talk.. too soo Ill do the easiest thing and cop out...
Silence is not golden when it comes to relatioships. More people are hurt by the lack of communication that are helped by it. What you dont do if you respect and value a person, is just disappear without an explanation. Sometimes I think some people have a total lack of empathy,, they cannot put themselves in the other person shoes, or be able to reverse that and see it through their own eyes.
The missing link in marriages and in failed business ventures is missing or bad communication. Assumptions are deadly because they are many times erroneous. The very people that put up nice profiles that want rich rewarding relationships, often are the pathetic at communication . Take it from me , I know.
Relationships take work, and that means open honest and free communication. It takes time and energy to work on one..something apparently that some people are not ready to do!
One tip: Be clear about what you want.. and fearlessly express it..It will separae the pretenders from the contenders!
http://www.dailycal.org/2011/10/04/sex-on-tuesday-love-in-the-time-of-facebook/
She makes some very salient points , but expresses the same bewilderment about what dating has come to,. Perhaps Im a lttle old fashioned ,but.. she is on to the updated and ultra sleek modern form of cyber dating. We think we have more but we actually have less. Short attention spans mean that we are juggling.. instead of focusing on the moment and the person we are too busy planning our next move.
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